After 17 childless years of marriage, Cheryl and I have been blessed by Lord with the arrival of our first child. Angelina came into our lives a few days after Christmas.
Dealing with infertility has been a very silent struggle for us. Over the years we have watched friends and former students have children almost without effort. Even though we had quit using birth-control after 9 years of marriage our story was different.
When we did speak of our problem we often got the same advice, "Take medical steps to conceive." That just seemed too much like playing GOD for us. After all, what would happen to all of our children who were not implanted and remained frozen? Stem cell research?
We decided to trust in the Lord rather seek that level of medical intervention to conceive. That was an extremely hard decision to make as Cheryl's main desire in life is to be a mother. Ethically, we just could not go the route of advanced medical intervention.
People we spoke with just could not understand our decision. Most just assumed that we did not really want to have kids or we would do something medical. We eventually quit discussing it with people as few were truly accepting. We kept silent rather than rehash the story and opening ourselves up for a fresh batch of pain due to our infertility. (there is a lot more to the story but i'll skip it for this brief post.)
For eight long years we prayed in faith believing that God would grant us a child. Being a pragmatist, i was beginning to think that we may need to adopt a child to become parents. (unlike Abram, i did not have a maidservant handy.) So we purchased a home and I began to look into adoption. That was 10 months ago.
Now we have a beautiful little girl in our lives and we did not need to adopt a child as I was planning.
God is so faithful to his servants! Cheryl and I are now middle-aged parents who are struggling with feeding issues and all those baby changes. I would not have it any other way!